So I graduated from college, and still had no opinion to share. I was always told what I should do and what I should think; that i never really wondered why I should have an opinion on things. I usually kept everything inside. I never had enemies, because I never really bad-mouthed anyone around me.

So I started talking. And man, what trouble that was. People were getting hurt. They think I’ve changed and gone off to become evil and bitchy. I’m still me. But every other time I wish people would just listen.

I’m now trying to let go. And I actually felt that you were trying to win me back.. were you? If i only knew how much you really care about me I would have fought for you too.

I know i’m not dreaming. so, wake up…

The typical man may defend the cheater’s side with the argument that this tests their relationship; what doesn’t kill you make you stronger.. And some families do end up closer after realizations of love. Some might say they’re bored; and adventures keep the blood flowing [without any regard for the broken carcasses along the way].

I think, men and women end up unhappy with their present relationships, because they settle. Settling is a defense mechanism people do when they don’t want to be alone. Their loved ones are out of reach; maybe they have not met the love of their lives.. So they meet someone nice, sweet, and almost loving, and they settle. Long settling relationships last for years, they make children and love them, till they finally end up with a dilemma: “Should I continue with this ‘lie’ or leave for “The One”? This is kind of reality today, as people are more scared of loneliness than hurting other people. It’s sad, actually. That you know you could’ve been really happy the first time…

Regrets are directly proportional to the person’s impatience. More mistakes are committed, more hearts crushed, webs of lies woven. More and more people are actually getting good at lying. I once saw a movie where no man knew how to lie, like it was inconceivable to not tell the truth. It’s painful, and prickly. But at least no one gets hurt because of quick indecisions.

A sad, sad earth our world has become. I refuse to live in a world like this. God, please help your children become more patient; so they could live life as you planned it…

In my line of work I meet a lot of people, most of them in need of medical care [*hint, hint*]. The one that really stuck to my head was a patient with colon CA. The mets were too extensive, that the patient had undergone ileostomies, and the attending  was  looking for a way for him to digest food normally, thru a feeding tube. They had several attempts, but to no avail. The intestine was too stiff, angulated for the tube to patently pass. It was sad; Imagine a world where you can no longer enjoy food. It’s tastes, the freshness of fruits, spice in a decadent dish prepared by the best chefs… It wouldn’t be worth living.

My heart goes out to all of them; the people who are losing grip, slowly deteriorating in disease… We will find a cure for all illnesses.. just have faith..

Take my mother for example. While watching a movie with my brother [i.e., Mr. & Mrs. Smith] full action, then they started caressing and undressing themselves while dishes clanged and broke.. She started freaking out about us watching them doing the deed, afraid that we might ‘emulate’ the movie’s heroes. It was embarrassing. Especially knowing that we were in our quarter-life crises ourselves, that our mother did not want us to see people making love. Naive. I don’t think she was protecting us anymore; I actually think she was protecting herself.. Protecting herself from the idea that we’re old enough to produce her grandchildren; the truth that sooner or later she has to face the fact that we’re launch ourselves to make our own lives. That things are inevitably gonna change, and she’s desperately trying to make our childhood last..

I have male friends that talk bout crushing on some cute Starbucks Barista but not admitting out loud that he’s green. Secret relationships made because the man is younger than the woman aka. cougar. A lover not admitting to everyone he’s in love with a girl because she’s fluffy. Ain’t that a cyin’ shame…

You know what I say to that? I say “Why the HELL not??” We value each person for who they are and what they have done in the world; not their preference for clothes and personal hook-ups… To hell with all the stereotypes and ‘norms’ society has labeled on people’s primitive lives. Embrace change. Remove the bandages. Unbind sweet Lady Justice’s eyes and let her see the truth. Life is diversity. “If everybody looked the same we’d get tired of looking at each other”, a song goes…  Truth hurts. But sometimes, it’s more liberating than chocolate cake.

I hate that you put me down and hurt me before making me smile. It’s like you want to see me suffer.

I hate that you secretly love me but try so hard to hide how you really feel; when you know you’re hurting me and you both.

I hate that you make me wait for you for so long when we go out on a date [I have other things to do, you know!].

I hate that you think you’re saving me from the pain when you pull away from me; when in truth you’re doing the exact opposite.

I hate that no matter how bad you treat me and no matter how I try,  I can’t stay mad at you.

I hate that you don’t trust me when I keep telling you ‘I love you’, and I never even lied.

I hate that you give more time for your PSP’s and DVD’s than you spend time working on actual human relationships.

I hate that you keep waiting for the right time to make your move, but when the time comes and you messed it up you regret it for the rest of your life; when you could’ve have used all that wasted time spent with me.

I hate that I love you so much that it’s getting harder to breathe when we’re not together.

All this hate..vanishes when you’re around..come back to me…

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Dating Tips: 10 Signs He’s Not ‘the One’

By YourTango.com

Some people say they “just knew” that they were datingtheir future spouse. But what about the rest of us? What happens when you’re not sure if he’s The One? If you’re considering long-term commitment or marriage, it’s time to ask yourself some tough questions. Below, 10 signs that may indicate he’s not for you.

1. You have a list of things he needs to stop doing/saying/wearing if he wants your relationship to work. If you’re fixating on his flaws, he’s either not the one you want or you’re not ready for a serious relationship. Cutting him loose allows you time to grow and gives you the opportunity to meet a guy whose flaws you can embrace — or at least accept.

2. You don’t trust him. A small dose of jealousy can be healthy, but if you’re hacking into his email account, and going berserk when he goes out without you, something’s wrong. If there’s something about him that truly warrants your distrust, then perhaps he’s not the right one for you.

3. You avoid conflict at any cost. Fighting is healthy. And, when done right (in the non-accusatory, rational sort of way), it can be a great way to air grievances, fix problems in your relationship, and come to a deeper understanding of each other. Ignoring problems is not the same as having no problems at all… even if it looks that way.

4. When you’re sad, you don’t turn to him for comfort.When you’re a giant ball of tears and snot, do you lock yourself into the bathroom so he can’t see you at your worst? If you’re worried about scaring him away, one of you isn’t ready for total commitment. Mr. Right should make you smile through your tears and be a calming, not stressful, presence.

5. One of you is struggling with an addiction. He’s sweet. He’s exciting. He loves you very much. But he loves his alcohol habit or his weekly gambling fix more. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you can change him or that your relationship will be strong enough to withstand the heartache that addiction will inevitably bring. An addict may be able to change, but he’ll do so on his own terms.

6. You can’t really imagine him as the father of your children. Ask yourself: Would he make a great parent? Is he financially responsible? Would he be an equal partner in your future together? If you have doubts, he’s probably not the one.

7. Your long-term, non-negotiable goals in life are incompatible. You want kids; he doesn’t. You go to church every week; he’s an atheist. He lives in the country and doesn’t want to move; you can’t imagine ever leaving the city. Superficial differences can be overcome, but differences in basic values are harder to smooth over. Ask yourself: “Would I be willing to compromise on this?” If the answer is absolutely not, you may not be right for each other.

8. You don’t respect each other. He puts you down in front of your friends and complains about you to his parents. You roll your eyes when he talks because there’s just something about him that embarrasses you. A relationship without respect can’t sustain itself.

9. You’re not attracted to him. Physical intimacy is a hugely important component of a romantic relationship. If he doesn’t do it for you, he’s probably not your best long-term match.

10. On paper he seems great, but you have this strange feeling… Don’t ignore your gut. You may get along on a superficial level, but if your instincts are telling you he’s not the one for you, listen. That little voice inside your head does not lie.